Finding Purpose: The Forgotten Secret to Achieve Your Goal
Are you frustrated about not being able to stick to your New Year’s Resolution? Have you convinced yourself that it seems hopeless to try again at losing the weight that you need to lose? Do you feel so tired and worn out from the whole work out idea? So many people make resolutions to improve their health every year, and sometimes year after year, and yet never reach their goals.
I believe one of the biggest differences between the people that achieve their goals and those that don’t comes down to the purpose for the goal. This might seem too simple, but in my experience, I have found that the people who are able to put in the hours and hours of work, and willing to go through the grind of pushing themselves to uncomfortable levels of exertion, are the ones who had a significant enough reason to keep going.
When I meet with a new client, one of the most important parts of the initial goal setting is to find the reason they came up with their goals. If the reason they want to improve their looks or life is not strong enough, I have found that those goals usually do not ever get reached or take a lot longer for me to find the reason for them to want the goal more than giving up. I have found that the people who come in with significant purpose will push through valleys of no progress to eventually reach their goal instead of giving up.
This is true of me recently as well. I was going through a period in my life where I was just going through the motions, not getting any better, and just tired. I did not have any desire to push myself. Then one day my friend asked me why I felt I was not willing to go after my goal, and he helped me realize that I have not come up with a reason that is more important than me not pushing myself. Since then, I have found a new desire and passion to push myself that I had not felt in a long time.
To let you into my life a little, my purpose and reason to push myself harder and harder is because I want my son to be proud of his Dad, and to me, one of the ways he can be proud of me, is by me being physically able to take part in any activity that he wants to play. And obviously I also want my wife to think I’m sexy. Those are the reasons I have found to re-motivate me to get back to pushing myself into areas that I was not willing to before I created these goals.
I suggest you sit down and really come up with strong enough reasons that make you want to get active again. Your reason has to be strong enough for you to say: “I can’t go without exercise, because not reaching my goals would be so much worse than the temporary discomfort and pain it takes to get to my goals.”